Be Your Fucking Self

Society has it’s own way of telling us who we should be, how we should act, what we should look like, who we should love, etc, etc. You know my answer, I think that’s all BULLSHIT. We struggle with it daily. I always tiptoed around being myself and being the “norm.” Well I’m not the norm and I’m certainly not normal. I can’t tell you how much it hurts to see women struggle to be themselves in fear of what others may think.

We’ve been conditioned to be too afraid to speak up and speak out, too afraid to wear that short skirt that makes us feel amazing, too afraid to not like the things everyone else does, and frankly just too afraid. I think now more than ever it’s SO important to be ourselves, to be loud, to speak up for what we believe in, to speak out against those things we don’t, and to just be your own normal.

I would have liked high school more had I had this attitude then but I didn’t. I have it now and I refuse to squander it. We get caught of these days up how many likes a picture got, our followers on social media, and things that are said about us. We’re too caught up in getting validation when in reality all we need to be validated is ourselves. People lash out on social media on strangers posts because they’re broken and not self-validating. Strangers and even people you know, cannot validate you and your worth. Only you can do it.

I don’t shy away from who I am, ever. Not everyone is going to like me, and I give zero fucks about it. Growing up, I wasn’t really self-conscious, I didn’t have time to think about it. I danced competitively from age 6-18. Especially pre-teen to 18 I was dancing multiple hours a day, other peoples opinions were not on my radar. Until the experience with my high school crush which I talked about in my lifestyle change blog post.

A few years later I realized, that person from high school, is literally nobody in my life now, but even the somebodies, their opinions doesn’t help me breathe, or work, or eat, or sleep, or live. So from that moment forward, I’ve owned who I am.

The difference between me and a lot of people, I own who I am. I don’t shy away from being anything that I am. It obviously flows over into business but it’s more so important in your day to day life. Owning who you are, 100%, helps to have confidence and aids in not giving a fuck what people thing. For some people it’s an infrequent reminder. For some, you need daily reminders. Grab a fucking dry erase marker and write a mantra on your bathroom about how fucking rad/gorgeous/smart/ambitious/strong you are. Put them places you’ll see them every day. Your car is a good one!

Stop looking for validation in false places. Stop chasing likes and followers. Simply live and the rest will follow. People gravitate towards me because of my personality, I’m an open book, I tell it like it is, and I don’t sugarcoat shit. I’ve had people say they wish they could be as confident and bold. Honestly, I just am. Because I quickly realized that I only get one life. ONE. And it’s up to me to decide how it’s lived and how I live it.

I chose to live my life knowing I’m amazing, while still not the greatest at everything. I self validate because it’s the truest place it can come from. If someone doesn’t like me, what I do, what I wear, how I talk, etc. FUCK IT. It’s my life. A major reason I created the bangle “your opinion doesn’t pay my bills” because it’s so fucking true and I wish more people would take it to heart and truly understand it.

Stop being afraid to stand on top of a building and tell the world WHO YOU ARE. Some aren’t going to like it. Some may say stupid shit but just fucking unfriend them/block them because they’re irrelevant anyway if they don’t GIVE to your joy rather than take from it. Better yet, don’t tell people who you are. Simply live as who you are. Full blown. Be yourself. You’ll watch things or people come and go. But you’ll see opportunities you may have not seen before because you weren’t being yourself. You might find someone in your life who may actually love harder the person you are vs who you were pretending to be. Quit paying attention to societies bullshit rules and just be your fucking self.

Give societal standards a middle finger daily + anyone who tries to tell you who you should be, how you should act, etc.